Heather Graham, 53, prefers dating without involving marriage or children: 'I don't feel that I'm missing anything'

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After decades of dating actors like herself, Boogie Nights alum Heather Graham has found love with professional snowboarder John de Neufville.

The 53-year-old Independent Spirit Award nominee is charmed that the 46-year-old Vertical Change founder - whom she was first pictured dating on September 23 - has been watching some of her past films.

'Even the ones that I'm so embarrassed of!' Heather admitted to People on Wednesday.

'But he always tells me I was great and that he is really impressed. It's sweet.'

And while Graham has reportedly romanced silver-screen leading men like Leonardo DiCaprio, Josh Lucas, Edward Burns, Matt Dillon, and the late Heath Ledger - she now prefers men outside of the industry.

Still going strong! After decades of dating actors like herself, Boogie Nights alum Heather Graham has found love with professional snowboarder John de Neufville (R, pictured March 14)

Still going strong! After decades of dating actors like herself, Boogie Nights alum Heather Graham has found love with professional snowboarder John de Neufville (R, pictured March 14)

'Of course, you want someone to understand your crazy schedule, which is different than a normal job, but I like dating someone who's not in the business,' the Wisconsin-born blonde explained.

'It puts it in perspective. Sometimes your job becomes so important to you, and then you realize there's so many other things in life that are happening. It's not all about the movie business.'

Heather is also said to have loved and left the likes of Scott Speedman, Corey Feldman, Kyle MacLachlan, James Woods, Adam Ant, Jon Favreau, Elias Koteas, Russell Crowe, Benicio Del Toro, and Matthew Perry.

Graham 'feels free' having decided never to get married or have children with any of her past gentlemen callers: 'And I get a lot of sleep!'

'I don't feel that I'm missing anything,' the Extrapolations guest star shrugged.

'If you're meant to have kids, you have kids. And if you're not meant to have kids, then the universe gives you someone or something to nurture. I do sometimes feel like my projects are little kids; I have started to get more involved in producing and writing and directing.'

Heather continued: 'I do feel like as a woman, culturally, you're not allowed to say, "I didn't want to have kids." Because it's like, "What's wrong with you?" I think as a man it's like, "Oh cool, you didn't want to have kids." Now, women are getting more free to make their own choices.'

Graham's lack of dependents allows her the time to have 12 hours of sleep a night, regular YogaWorks workouts, daily affirmations, and practice transcendental meditation for 40 minutes a day.

Bonding: The 53-year-old Independent Spirit Award nominee is charmed that the 46-year-old Vertical Change founder (R, pictured March 28) has been watching some of her past films

Bonding: The 53-year-old Independent Spirit Award nominee is charmed that the 46-year-old Vertical Change founder (R, pictured March 28) has been watching some of her past films

Heather admitted to People on Wednesday: 'Even the ones that I'm so embarrassed of! But he always tells me I was great and that he is really impressed. It's sweet' (pictured February 3)

Heather admitted to People on Wednesday: 'Even the ones that I'm so embarrassed of! But he always tells me I was great and that he is really impressed. It's sweet' (pictured February 3)

Heather pictured with Edward Burns in 1999
Heather pictured with the late Heath Ledger in 2001

'It puts it in perspective': And while Graham has reportedly romanced silver-screen leading men like Leonardo DiCaprio, Josh Lucas, Edward Burns (L), Matt Dillon, and the late Heath Ledger (R) - she now prefers men outside of the industry

The Wisconsin-born blonde explained: 'Sometimes your job becomes so important to you, and then you realize there's so many other things in life that are happening. It's not all about the movie business' (pictured March 29)

The Wisconsin-born blonde explained: 'Sometimes your job becomes so important to you, and then you realize there's so many other things in life that are happening. It's not all about the movie business' (pictured March 29)

Heather pictured with James Woods in 1992
Heather pictured with Matthew Perry in 2004

Wow! Heather is also said to have loved and left the likes of Scott Speedman, Corey Feldman, Kyle MacLachlan, James Woods (L), Adam Ant, Jon Favreau, Elias Koteas, Russell Crowe, Benicio Del Toro, and Matthew Perry (R)

'The more that I try being kind to myself, I feel like I can take it into all my other relationships and be more loving in those relationships,' The two-time SAG Award nominee noted.

'As I've grown up, I realized I really need to take care of myself first, and then I actually have more to give other people.'

Heather also believes she's more productive on the set if she gets 'one day of just absolute being a zombie, laying around.'

'And then when I go back to work on Monday,' Graham said.

'I feel like I have energy and I'm excited about it. If you're relaxed, sometimes you're doing better work.'

The Harvey Weinstein accuser will next play wealthy Louisiana housewife-turned-emergency co-pilot Terri White in Sean McNamara's private plane survival drama On a Wing and a Prayer, which premieres this Friday on Amazon Prime Video.

The Church of Christ family flick - based a on a true story from Easter 2009 - also stars Dennis Quaid, Jesse Metcalfe, Jessi Case, and Rocky Myers.

Heather has wrapped upcoming roles in Audrey Cummings' mother-daughter western Place of Bones and Mary Lambert's rom-com Best. Christmas. Ever.

Graham has also been shopping around the 2019 TV pilot she produced and starred in based on Liane Moriarty's 2011 novel Hypnotist's Love Story.

'I don't feel that I'm missing anything': Graham 'feels free' having decided to never get married or have children with any of her past gentlemen callers, 'And I get a lot of sleep!'

'I don't feel that I'm missing anything': Graham 'feels free' having decided to never get married or have children with any of her past gentlemen callers, 'And I get a lot of sleep!'

Nice: The Extrapolations guest star's lack of dependents allows her the time to have 12 hours of sleep a night, regular YogaWorks workouts, daily affirmations, and practice transcendental meditation for 40 minutes a day (pictured March 29)

Nice: The Extrapolations guest star's lack of dependents allows her the time to have 12 hours of sleep a night, regular YogaWorks workouts, daily affirmations, and practice transcendental meditation for 40 minutes a day (pictured March 29)

Premieres this Friday on Amazon! Heather will next play real-life wealthy Louisiana housewife-turned-emergency co-pilot Terri White in Sean McNamara's private plane survival drama On a Wing and a Prayer opposite Dennis Quaid (L)

Premieres this Friday on Amazon! Heather will next play real-life wealthy Louisiana housewife-turned-emergency co-pilot Terri White in Sean McNamara's private plane survival drama On a Wing and a Prayer opposite Dennis Quaid (L)

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